Saturday, December 8, 2007

The Sam Update - Fifteen Months Old*

It seems like a long time since I last wrote.  At that time, we had just arrived in San Diego, and now we're about to leave for Lexington, Virginia.  It's a crazy time for the Mossoffs, but Samantha is doing just fine with all the changes.  We try to keep up with routines and rituals, and to always tell her what's going to happen so that she has some security.  I think it's much easier to move around like this now than it would be when she is older. 

 

We managed to visit a lot of people we know in Southern California while we were here.  My parents were able to spend quite a bit of time with us, too, which was great.  We have loved the weather here, and the fires didn't get anywhere near us.  We are now enjoying some high surf conditions and the beach across the street is crowded with surfers every day.  A few days ago we had lunch in the park and it felt like a mild summer day - just lovely.  

 

Samantha is so different than she was three months ago, but it's mostly in the details and hard to describe.  A lot of it is communication.  She understands so much of what we say, and her sign language helps her talk back.  The only words she speaks consistently are mama, dada, and no, which is always expressed as "nonononono."  But she learns signs for just about anything that is important to her.  It's interesting how, if it doesn't matter to her, she'll just never pick up a sign.  She has strong preferences for all kinds of things now - food, toys, books, etc.  When she wants something, you know it!  She also points and verbalizes in a way that we, as her parents, understand even if they are not true words.  

 

She took her first steps in mid-November and she's taking an independent step or two every day now.  She can walk with a "push toy" which is just a little thing with wheels and a handle that helps her balance.  She can also walk holding on to one of our hands.  She LOVES to walk!  I think she'll be walking on her own within a month or two.  She likes to scribble with any kind of writing device.  She knows what most objects around her are for - when she picks up any brush, she puts it to her hair, when she picks up a tissue she puts it to her nose, she likes to try to mop the floor with the mop, and sometimes she tries to wipe her own bottom.  This is a big change - in the past, the objects were interesting in and of themselves but now she is beginning to understand purpose and function.  She is also crazy about bath time now that she is old enough for the big tub.  Every time we go past the bathroom she signs "bath" and I have to tell her "not now - later."  That's what we get for teaching her sign language!

 

Sam recently had surgery on her eyes to unblock her tear ducts.  It went perfectly and it was a really easy procedure.  Her eyes are much better now so it was worth it.  She got her first 6 teeth in the past 3 months, too.  She looks so different with teeth.  Her hair is coming in but it will still be a while before she stops looking bald.  Between her lack of hair and her small size, people usually think she's about 9 months old.      

 

One of the best things we did recently was to visit a "Candy Cane Lane" - a block of homes that go all out on the Christmas decorations.  Since this is Southern California and warm enough to be outdoors at night, it's designed to be walked through instead of just driven by.  We all enjoyed it, but Sam was just in heaven!  She loved the lights and characters such as Santa and Frosty.  This is her first Christmas with any real awareness of what's going on around her and it's so exciting for us!

 

We're spending Christmas with friends in Richmond, then heading out to Lexington around New Years.  We don't have time for Christmas cards this year, so I'll take this opportunity to wish you all a joyous Christmas and a prosperous New Year.  Wish us well as we continue our adventures, and I'll write again in a few months.

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Thursday, September 13, 2007

The Sam Update - One Year Old*

It's nice to be writing to you all again.  We are settled in San Diego and finally feeling a bit normal again.   It was a terrible trip which lasted almost 2 months and I won't say another word about it except to say we won't do it that way again when we go to Virginia in December.   We've sold our house in Michigan which is a financial relief but which makes us sad, too.  San Diego is nice.  Adam is enjoying his "visit" at USD and there is a lot of great stuff to do right near us.   We live across the street from the ocean and walk out on to the cliffs to watch the sun set quite often.  There is a dog park and a dog beach for Toby nearby.   There is supposed to be a lot of great stuff to do with kids, but I haven't had time for much of that yet.

 

Now on to the news you're all waiting for.  Samantha is doing great!   She seems to get more adorable every day.   Since I last wrote, she has started signing about 6 words.  (We've been teaching her sign language to help her communicate before she can speak.)   She verbally says "mama" and "dada" and "ball" and is really working on some others like "Jinx," (our cat) but I think she's a bit too ambitious there.   She definitely gets frustrated when she wants something but can't express it or do anything about it.  She throws temper tantrums by flinging herself backwards (hitting her head on the floor quite often) and screaming.   This may not sound adorable and when it happens I don't think so either, but I do know that it's just part of her development and I smile about it at the end of the day when she's asleep.   It's difficult to know how much to help her and how much to let her be, but I'm enjoying trying to figure it all out.

 

She is still not crawling or walking, but apparently that is not too unusual.  Here's the interesting part, though.   We're renting a guest house from the Martins, a family with 3 kids, one of whom is just a month younger than Sam.  Charlie was crawling like crazy when we got here and Sam was doing nothing but reaching and leaning.   She had never even turned herself around or given any indication that she wanted to move.  But once she saw Charlie, she started trying for the first time.   Now she scoots around on her bottom and slides around on her tummy.  She can go in all directions but forward, poor girl, which often leads to the tantrums I mentioned.   Sometimes she'll spin in circles a few times and end up where she wants to go, which is quite cute.  She's doing pretty well with the standing with support, but still hasn't figured out how to pull herself up or take steps while holding on to things.   We put her a bit behind with the travels - she didn't get to practice any of this stuff for most of those 2 months (would you put a baby on a cheap hotel room carpet...yick!) - but she's having a lot of fun with it now.

 

The three Martin kids, Sierra (almost 6), Jack (4), and Charlie (11 months) are sweet, wonderful kids.   I feel so lucky that our Sam gets to spend time with them while we're here.  We've been doing some things with them here and there - going to the park or to dinner or just swimming or hanging out.  

 

Sam cut her first tooth just a few days ago - I was surprised at how sharp it is, and also at how excited I was to see it.   She eats just about anything that is soft, and it seems like I'm feeding her all day long.  She's still a tiny girl, though.  I guess she was doomed to be small and slow since both Adam and I were that way as babies.  

 

For Sam's first birthday, I started a tradition of putting helium balloons on her ceiling in the middle of the night so she would wake up to them.   She LOVES balloons.  She calls them "baaa" just like balls, although sometimes it sounds more like two syllables:   "baoooo."  She recognizes balloons in books, too.  We spent her birthday with my parents in Temecula, where they were staying at the time.  We swam and opened presents and had cake.   It was a really great day.

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

The Sam Update - Nine Months Old*

This will probably be my last monthly e-mail update, partially because this can't go on forever, and partially because we're moving to San Diego in two weeks and I'll be busy.  I'll definitely send out an update when Sam turns a year old.

 

Samantha is doing all sorts of fun things these days.  She can stand up holding on to furniture now, but hasn't yet started "cruising," which means walking around while holding on to things for balance.  Just seeing her standing without my help blew me away.  She hasn't crawled, so it felt to me like she went from baby to almost-toddler in an instant.  Also, she's so small (fifth percentile) that it looks more like she's a really advanced 5 month old...kind of surreal.  I wish I had gotten a photo of it for this update. 

 

She started eating Cheerios this month, which was a bigger milestone than I had expected.  It's nice to bring a bag of cereal around and know that I can keep her full and occupied so easily.  She still doesn't have any teeth, though.

 

Sam has been into poking everything with her thumbs lately.  I think that started when she learned how to purposefully push buttons.  She can work the remote for our ceiling fan and we bought her a toy cell phone which she loves and which annoys us with beeping sounds. 

 

We started giving her instructions and telling her "no" a couple of months ago, and it seems that she is now at the point where she can follow quite a bit.  Using sign language along with instructions helps a lot, although she has not made her first sign yet.  (We think she is now waving when we wave at her, but it's hard to tell if she is just reaching.)  But now is definitely the time when we need to start giving her boundaries, which is a big change for us.  We had started falling into the trap of going the easy way and allowing her to play with anything and touch anything if it interested her, and just taking things away when they were unsafe.  But we don't want to parent that way.  We want her to start learning that we have expectations for her behavior.  I had no idea when it would be appropriate to begin but I can tell now that she is ready.  She is already learning not to pull my earrings (yea - I can wear jewelry again!) or my hair, and she is learning not to put things in her mouth when I tell her no.  For now, we give her gentle instruction and no "punishment" and she mostly doesn't seem to mind being told no, although she'll give us the occasional whiny scream of frustration and it passes in a moment.  It is a wonderful feeling when she responds because it is so clear that we are communicating.  And I thought it was great when the dog listened to me!

 

Finally, the thing we probably love the most is that Sam now turns the pages of her books.  The small cardboard books are the best - we pull one page out a bit and she grabs it and turns it.  She used to grab at books any which way and sometimes turn pages right to left or just close the book or put it in her mouth.  Now, she understands the left to right process and can grab the one page and pull it over.  She seems to know when to turn it as we're reading too.  Sometimes she'll turn the pages throughout a whole book.  It's so amazing!

 

I've started working out again, which is great.  I really need the time for myself.  Hopefully I'll be able to continue during our travels.  The weather has been great and we've been going on a lot of walks.  We took Sam to her second wedding last weekend and we had a blast dancing with her.  She also attended her first live musical, "1776." 

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Monday, May 7, 2007

The Sam Update - Eight Months Old*

Our Sam is now 8 months old, and as I've probably said each month:  This is the BEST age!  But I really mean it this time.  :) 

 

The coolest thing Sam is doing now is leaning and looking around obstructions to watch something.  Also, when something disappears behind the left side of the sofa or other object, she looks to the right, expecting to see it come out the other side.  It's hard to convey why this is so meaningful, but Adam noted that part of it is that she has had to combine a few new skills to do it.  First, she has developed an understanding of object permanence - just because it is out of her sight does not mean the thing does not exist anymore.  (She's way ahead of many philosophers on this point!)  Next, she has the physical coordination to lean and twist and tilt her head.  Finally, she has learned that moving in those ways gains her a new perspective.  It's so exciting to watch her, and we really have to be careful because she's trying to lunge out of our arms.  She's surprisingly quick and strong! 

 

No teeth yet, but that doesn't stop her from being a great eater.  She likes everything but turkey so far.  And her hair is finally starting to come in.  I'm so curious to see what she'll look like with hair.  Her eyes are still blue - it would be nice if they stay that way or just get a bit greener, like Adam's.

 

We're using sign language pretty consistently now (just a few key words) and sometimes it seems like she understands.  She definitely understands a few verbal words like "no," "let go please," "legs down," and "arms up." 

 

Spring is finally here and we have been walking again.  Today I put Sam in her stroller facing forward for the first time.  Up until now she's been in her car seat which sits in the stroller facing the back.  She's been ready to sit normally for a while, but she is still really too small for the seat and straps, although we managed okay today.  She's only 14 pounds still - about 10th percentile.  She's always developmentally ready for things before she fits into them, but I told her being short is no big deal and her dad and I can tell her all about how to cope with it.  :)

 

I graduated this weekend.  I was the top student in my major of Applied Engineering Sciences (it's a combination of engineering and business classes.)  Dad and Deb Mossoff came and we had a great weekend. 

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Monday, April 9, 2007

The Sam Update - Seven Months Old*

I don't have time for my usual long-winded e-mail.  We've all been sick for the past couple of weeks and we're just getting better now.  I never knew how hard it was to be sick and caring for other sick people at the same time.  Thanks, mom, for all those times you did it for me.  Otherwise things are going well.  I'll catch up more next time.

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

The Sam Update - Six Months Old*

Samantha will be half a year old on Friday.  I can't believe how quickly the past few months have flown by.  It seems there are new challenges and new joys every day.  Now I understand why people remember their time with their babies as a blur.  It's hard to just take a moment and digest it.  I try to do so as much as possible, but the whirlwind is part of what makes it what it is, and it's a good thing. 

 

Sam has achieved a few milestones since I last wrote.  She has started eating solid food, which she absolutely loves.  She's been watching us eat and drink for weeks now so we started her a bit early.  We also help her drink a few sips of water out of our adult glasses occasionally just for fun and she has a sippy cup which she mostly plays with.  She can sit up on her own for a few seconds at a time now while leaning forward on her knuckles like a monkey.  She just needs to improve her balance and she'll be sitting pretty (har har).  Most impressive to us, though, is that she is now playing what I call "give and take."  She will hold an object, offer it to one of us, and after we take it and offer it back, she'll take it.  Right now, this comes in the form of her putting finger puppets in our mouths and then taking them back out (she's fascinated with our mouths right now.)  I was surprised to see that she was capable of understanding the pattern, but she does and she loves it.  She is really a little person now and she is so wonderful!

 

Our biggest news is that we are moving, at least temporarily!  Adam is "visiting" at two different law schools next school year.  They are just temporary positions, and he remains on the faculty at MSU, but sometimes these things become permanent.  In the fall we will be at the University of San Diego, and in the spring we'll be at Washington & Lee in Lexington, Virginia.  We have no idea yet where we'll live or how we'll get there - we're working on that now.  (For you local folks, let us know if you know anyone who might want to rent our house.)  I'll have graduated by then and don't plan to start working yet, so it's great timing. We are very excited about the whole adventure!

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May, 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Monday, January 29, 2007

The Sam Update - Five Months Old*

Samantha is now almost 5 months old!  The time has gone by so quickly and she is so different than she was as a newborn.  We love her at this age.  She is so happy when she sees us and we can make her giggle by doing something new and silly.  New things are definitely what she wants now, and she seems to get bored if left in the same environment too long.  I've had a lot of appointments lately and she comes with me everywhere.  The only problem with this is that she's gotten into the habit of catnapping, so I'm now working on getting her to nap longer but less often. That means staying at home more for now but it gives me much more free time.  She's definitely maturing and it's hard to keep up with her changing needs!

 

She has started sucking her thumb more regularly so we think that is a habit she might develop.  We don't mind.  She has started actually enjoying bath time and splashes around in the water a bit.  She also loves to watch TV when we let her, and grabs at the remote and even my computer keyboard.  Does she love buttons or is she imitating us?  We have fun guessing. She is making more consonant sounds and likes to babble when we put her down for naps. 

 

I am back in school for my final class before graduating in May.  It's an interesting class (manufacturing processes) but a very boring professor.  I just found out that I will be the top graduate in my major!  I even get a cash award for it, which was a nice surprise.

 

For his teaching, Adam received his best student evaluations ever last semester (and they've always been good).  How he did that while Sam was a newborn I have no idea, but he is definitely a great teacher.  He is really enjoying his Property class this semester, and is also teaching Cyberlaw.

 

We're in the midst of planning our almost-definite trip to Telluride, Colorado this summer for the Objectivist conference, and now we're thinking of another trip to Abaco in the Bahamas next Christmas.  Those two trips will probably preclude any of our usual quick getaways this year.

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May, 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.

Monday, January 1, 2007

The Sam Update - Four Months Old*

Happy New Year!

 

Samantha continues to amaze us with her development.  She's getting much better with her hands and tries to put everything in her mouth.  She's really experimenting with her voice, making delightful squeals and hilarious grunts.  She looks really cute sitting up in her Bumbo seat and likes to watch her Baby Einstein video.  Her favorite music is Mozart, but she really likes the Peanut Butter Jelly Time song too.  :)  But her favorite thing in the world right now is looking at herself in the mirror - and who could blame her for admiring such beauty?!?  She is such a happy baby and we have so much fun with her every day.

 

*Disclaimer:  The Sam Update began as a series of e-mails sent to family and friends starting when Sam was less than a month old.  To keep the chronology I've faked the dates here on the blog to reflect when the updates were actually written.  They were really added to the blog in May, 2008, with just a bit of editing.  All subsequent entries will be posted directly to the blog.